Race for Life

life

I have made the huge commitment to run a 5k on the 19th of July.

My motivation is twofold:
1. To loose the baby weight that I have started gaining back due to stuffing my face with cookies and ice cream, and
2. To show my appreciation that our family is healthy and cancer free.

In the past several years I have had several friends diagnosed with cancer of some form or another. As I sit on the sidelines and watch them struggle, I thank God every day that we are not so unlucky.

This is my way to do a very small part to help those who are fighting right now or have fought in the past and are now all clear.

I am clearly not a runner and although a 5k is a small goal, it’s a big goal for me at this busy time in our lives.

If you have an extra £5, £10 or £15 lying around, please go to this site and support Cancer Research UK: http://www.raceforlifesponsorme.org/jilltolan

Thanks a million for your support and I’ll run my little heart out!

The Slide

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There is nothing quite like the excitement in a child’s eyes as they dart down the slide. It forces me to remember what is important in life and focus on the pure innocence that my children possess. One look at the glitter in their eye and smile on their face and all my adult woes are immediately forgotten.

Here are Jake and Ava at Suson Park in St. Louis.

Role Models

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In a world of high pressure to achieve – we strive to be a great Mums, fantastic wives, have a stellar careers and fruitful female friendships. Is this possible?
As women, we beat ourselves up if our kids don’t eat or sleep or we have let our husband down by not having time to put a hot meal on the table. Can we really be expected to do it all?

I think not – at least not all at once.

What we need are good role models to look to for inspiration on our journey through life.

As children we are encouraged to embrace role models to help guide us in times of trouble and keep us on the straight and narrow. Why aren’t we encouraged to look up to role models as adults? Do we know more than everyone else? Are we older and wiser and therefore don’t need any one’s help?

One thing that I realize as I get older is that I’m definitely not wiser. I can’t know everything and do everything as I once thought I could. I now realize that there will always be things that are unobtainable for me and I am content in knowing this. I do still feel a little happy pang when I see someone who is so remarkable in what they do or has some aspect that they do really well or is admirable in some way.

This week I read a really enchanting article about Michelle Obama and realized she has it all! She has a Harvard Law Degree and amazingly used to mentor the future president of the United States who is now her loving husband. She gave up her a fantastic career to be a better mother and support her husband on the campaign trail. She’s chosen what’s important to her and made her life work around those choices.

Sometimes it difficult to ground yourself and decide what exactly is important in your life. Michelle is an inspiration and a role model for doing just that.

Kudos to Michelle Obama!

Mothers around the world will be watching you in awe!

Daddy Aerobatics

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This evening as the bath is filling with warm sudsy water, I popped downstairs to warm the baba’s bottles. From the kitchen I hear the lovely sound of  laughter from Jake and screams of delight from Ava.

I step from the kitchen to listen. More laughing. More screams. The sound of toddlers laughing is one of the most glorious sounds on earth!

I gather the bottles and ascend the stairs as I listen to belly laughs and screaming coming from our bedroom. I enter to see Jake flying headfirst into the soft faux fur blanket covering the bed. He lands and erupts in laughter as Ava is lifted and catapulted headfirst onto the nest of pillows.

As Darragh has been in Chicago for the past week, he is full of excitement and raring to play with the baba’s.  Unfortunately, he doesn’t see the importance of keeping things low key at bedtime.

We’ve spent 18 months trying to get the baba’s to sleep between the hours of 7 and 7. It’s now 6:45 and they are flying around the bedroom like little circus gymnasts. Unbelievable! I hear a Mummy scold flying out of my mouth and continue with my chores.

I tend to the bath and come back to the same antics I left. Although the three of them are loving their together time, I am dreading the tears that will ensue when they are too wound up for bedtime.

I issue my Mummy scolds again.
Me: “Who is the adult here?”
Darragh: “Clearly, you.”

Ugh! I’m fighting a losing battle.

I stomp downstairs to start dinner and drown out the anticipated cries.

Good Night!

Oh Dear

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Coming from a multicultural household, the question that keeps surfacing is “what accent will the baba’s have?”. Will they have the fluent and graceful American English accent of my native tongue, the Irish lilt of Darragh’s homeland or or a very proper British accent?

My theory is that they will have some mix of the three.
Time will surely tell.

Although, the use of British colloquialisms is already filtrating into their vocabulary.

Several days ago we were sitting on the couch and Ava said 2 words very clear. I looked at her with bewilderment. She then repeated the same words several times.
A light bulb went off in my head.
Me: “Oh Dear?”
Ava: “Oh Dear”
Me: “Oh Dear?”
Ava: “Oh Dear”
Me (laughing): “Oh Dear”
Ava (laughing): “Oh Dear”

I love our conversations!

The Aftermath

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uesday evening Darragh & I were nestled on the couch catching up on rubbish TV when we heard some coughing from upstairs. This was followed by a moment of silence, then a wail. Darragh rushed upstairs to find our poor little Ava drenched and sitting in a smelly puddle of vomit.

As Darragh peeled her jammies off and wiped down her exposed body parts, I had the lucky job of cleaning up her bedclothes. I gathered her blankets and stuffed animals then carefully pulled her sheets off the bed. I juggled the sheet to get it into the bathroom without spilling. Once in the bathroom, I dumped the puke in the toilet and washed the sheet in the tub. This is where I am not proud to have such a good shnozer! The smell was overwhelming!! It brought me back to a childhood memory of my Mom making these horrendous gagging noises when she cleaned up our puke. The sound of her gagging was almost worse than the original puke!

Ava stayed in our bed, waking up every hour to throw up all over all of us. She would then roll back over and slump into an exhausted slumber.

About 3:00am, after I was awoken by a vomiting session, I went to check on Jake (who was sound alseep). Since I was up, I went into the office to waste some time on the computer. I’d just sat down when I heard more coughing. Poor little Ava, I thought, as I walked back to our bedroom. As I passed the baba’s room, I saw Jake sitting up in his bed. It was Jake! He had just vomited his huge evening snack all over himself and his bed. Once again, we were peeling off clothes and rinsing out bedclothes.

I put Jake in the bed next to Ava, who immediately started rubbing his back. She knew exactly how he felt!

Thankfully, things did improve as the morning wore on.

All is now well in our house, although Jake’s little bear had to spend a night outside on his own after a quick trip through the washing machine:

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Sledding

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I have fond childhood memories of beautiful white snow and spending snow days bundled so thick with layers that I could barely move my arms and legs and sledding down our neighborhood hills.

We eagerly introduced the baba’s to this wonderful past time at an early age.

During our trip to Verbier, we loaded the baba’s and the sled into the bubble and ascended the mountain full of excitement.

Once at the first station, we unloaded ourselves and our gear and plopped Ava & Jake into their little sled. They were full of smiles and bewilderment as Darragh pulled them around the slopes.

sledding

Just seeing the excitment in their eyes made all the sleepless nights worth it!

Nothing can restore your youth more than seeing the world from a child’s eyes.

Thank you Ava and Jake for giving me this pleasure.

Sleepy Nanny

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We arrived at our chalet on Saturday morning with high aspirations of a nice balance between relaxation and adreniline filled fun. We were quickly introduced to the chalet staff, including our nanny for the week. She was a pretty, young English girl who was doing a gap year in Verbier. We said our hellos and agreed to see her in our room the following morning bright and early.

She arrived Sunday morning as planned and Darragh and I took off for a fun filled day of skiing. As my first day was quite stressful on the slopes and I was worried about how the baba’s were taking to the new nanny, I came down the mountain at lunchtime to see how things were progressing. I arrived in the room to find baba’s and nanny coping well. Both seemed to be hitting it off and I was at last feeling confident that this arrangement was going to work out well. I skipped off to the pub to meet Darragh and watch the Munster rugby match.

I stayed until Munster had the match wrapped up and took off for a much needed afternoon of relaxation. I arrived to the chalet to hear Ava screaming from the bottom of the stairs. I walked up the 2 flights of stairs to our room and was dismayed to still hear Ava screaming. I walked into our room to find Ava crying and trying to open the door, Jake running around throwing things about the room and the nanny asleep!!!!

I was completely stunned and shocked.

Speechless.

She was sound asleep curled up on our bed.
Our toddlers were screaming and destroying the room!

I could have envisioned her falling asleep for a second as I do find twin toddlers an exhausting experience. She was flat out and completely ignorant to Ava’s loud wails!

In a bad draw of straws, it seems we ended up with Sleepy Nanny instead of Super Nanny!

Ski Princess

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Several years ago Darragh and I decided it was high time we learned how to ski. Our first ever ski trip took us to Whistler. We hit the jackpot with the most amazing snow of the season in one of the premier ski resorts in the world. Sadly, it was lost on us as we spent most of the time in our ski lessons on the magic carpet.

Since that time, we’ve been lucky enough to visit several other gorgeous mountainous destinations including Alpe D’Huez and a resort close to Salzburg. Both trips dazzled us with beautiful scenery and good times.

Of all our ski trips, I was looking forward to this year’s trip to Verbier the most. Not only would we get to share it with our beautiful baba’s, but I was determined to increase my ski confidence on the slopes of Switzerland!

I had two goals for this ski excursion:
1. Return with all limbs in tact
2. Depart Verbier with the confidence to anticipate a return trip with enthusiasm

I had a quick scan today and I thankfully have all my body parts.
Thanks to a very patient and understanding husband, I am amazingly psyched for our next skiing adventure!

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After two days of tears and the ever helpful shouts from behind me saying “point your ski’s down the hill”, I eventually made it down my little blue run without any snow plowing or side stepping. It took me 15 times, but darnit, I did it! After the first mishap of missing the ski lift, I even got on and of the lifts without taking any other skiers or myself out.

By the end of the trip I was zooming around with a huge smile on my face admiring the spectacular scenery.

I can now understand how people can catch the ski bug and return year after year. The wind on my face and fantastically beautiful scenery is someting I will look to with anticipation as the autumn leaves drop from the trees and the winter mornings cover the ground with frost.

Goodbye scaredy cat and hello ski princess!!!

Home Sweet Home!

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I love the excitement and enthusiasm you feel as you eagerly pack for a trip to an unknown and exciting location. The excitement mounts as you imagine the beautiful new scenery, delicious food and fascinating locals. Sometimes the locale lives up to your high expectations, sometimes it exceeds and ever so often it lags behind.

One thing I find interesting about travel is the anticipation of home at the end of the journey. No matter if it’s one week or one month, the last day always feels like it’s time to go. It must be a psychological defense mechanism to make sure you actually do go home instead of deciding to embark on a new life in your chosen paradise.

With two toddlers, it’s even more apparent when this time arrives.
By yesterday, every last piece of clothing was covered with puke, poo or snot. Jake had decided he was tired of the strange food and went on a hunger strike, Ava’s skin was covered in dry patches and felt like sandpaper and Jake was puking after every morsel that went into his mouth as he was overloaded with junk food.

Today our 6:30am bus to the airport was a no show and we were fleeced for our final pennies by the Easyjet baggage police in Geneva airport.

Tired and weary, we happily arrived in St. Albans this morning. The baba’s were delighted to see their old toys and eat food they recognized. I am eagerly looking forward to lying on the couch and catching up on American Idol episodes.

Home Sweet Home!